No, this blog post is not about "kid bullies." Sorry.
It is about adults...
specifically the backlash that I have received the past few weeks from fellow bloggers.
I think that "bullying" is a pretty huge issue.
No, I don't approve of it.
So, when I am called a bully myself, on my blogs Facebook page. I had to laugh. Why was I called a bully? Because I had written about our recent trip to Boston? This person chose to read only some parts, and ignore the rest of the post. I responded with: why was she reading my blog if she didn't like what I wrote about? Why was she taking time out of her day to comment about it? Maybe she should read all of the other stuff I had written about. I pointed out, that I don't force anyone to read my blog, I don't send my blog to S's Ex wife, I never even mention the Ex by her name, if I wanted to be a bully, I would send posts directly to the Ex, or I would have said things to her face.
The comments that came out on that post, are nothing compared to the comments that I received on A Letter to My Future Step-Daughter.
What to do, what to do about negative comments and feedback? Laugh at them actually.
Any sort of feedback means that people are reading my blog, and if they hate it, they are maybe sharing it. Alright. And when people leave such nasty comments on my blog? I promote that post even more! And specifically, I promote that post by telling people to check out the post that made so many people mad...and it works. So thanks for the advertising!
What else has been happening? How else have I received criticisms and censorship from the blogging world?
About 2 months ago, I was deleted from a blogging group because one of the Admins didn't appreciate an ecard that I had posted on my blogs FB page concerning child support. She even decided to comment on it. But instead of saying something privately to me she commented about it on my FB page AND on the blogging group page! Matuuuure. And then, even though I hadn't posted that ecard on the blogging groups FB page...I was deleted from the group. Awesome guidance and support from an experienced blogger. My personal FB and my blogs FB are MY sites, where I can post what I choose. Again, I do not make the Ex wife look at my FB page...if she does, that's her right, but I don't post things thinking that it's going to "hurt" her in any way.
Just a few weeks ago, I was deleted from another blogging group! This one I had to laugh about even more! The Admin had endorsed my page on hers, then apparently some of her friends and family complained about my content. So she finally actually went through my content and decided she didn't want to endorse me any more! Ok. But I had to email her to find out why! She never even emailed me about it! She informed me that I should take advice from more experienced writers, specifically her, because she had made so much money the past month, and that for me to make money I have to write about things that people are ok with reading. Ummmmm....right.
IF I was using this blog only as a means to make money....then I WOULD conform to blogging society, run only giveaways, and only write about sunshine and smiles.
BUT since I'm NOT, I refuse to change what I write about.
I find it so funny that people will only focus on the bad things that I write about. Never mind the funny posts about my kiddos, all the wedding planning..... nahhhhhh I don't write about any of that. These people only see that I occasionally write about things that the Ex does, and about the rough relationship that S has with his daughter with Ex. What it comes down to though, is that some of the things that happen with Ex and K, are a part of our lives as well! So yes, I will write about them, and I will tell you straight out my opinion on the matter because that is how I write, I don't hold anything back.
There have been other instances this week, that have made me feel outcasted from the blogging community...a community made (mostly) of women who claim that they want to help other women, that this is all about helping other writers to gain recognition, and yes, make money. But I won't talk about those instances, because I've already confronted those with who it happened. I'm still saddened by it though.
I'm also sad that for some reason, there are so many "cliques" in the blogging community.
For all of you out there who have supported me, and tell me how great my blog is? Thank you so much! I've even talked to some of them these past few weeks and they have supported me, laughed at those who have treated me the way they have, and told me to basically "chin up", that there will always be "haters", that any sort of publicity is good publicity....and they are right.
To all of you who claim that you don't like my blog, but continue to stalk it anyways? Thank you! You still raise my numbers and you're always good for a laugh!
below: something very interesting that I found on Healthy Living Blogs that descibes to a "T" how people have been commenting on some of my blog posts lately and how I was treated by that first Admin that I talked about.....so who's the bully???
WHO IS A BLOGGER BULLY?
- Berates someone for being outside the box they have created
- Leaves snarky comments with an “anonymous” name because they’re too cowardly to face the fall out
- Leaves snarky comments with their real name for things they would never say in person
- Makes snarky comments in front of a group to embarrass someone – this also makes you an a**hole in case you are wondering.